I'M WORTH A LOT

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Pada entry pada kali ini saya mahu berbicara mengenai tajuk ini, 'I'M WORTH A LOT'. Kisah ini saya ambil dari Facebook. Pada saya, kisah ini betul-betul menggambarkan kehidupan wanita pada zaman ini. berikut merupakan petikan yang saya ambil:

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: 'What kind of man are you looking for?'

She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking, 'Do you really want to know?' 

Reluctantly, he said, 'Yes.'

She began to expound, 'As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can't do for myself? I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man... or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, 'What can you bring to the table?' 

The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.

She quickly corrected his thought & stated, 'I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life’.

He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain. 

She said, 'I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man. I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden. I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man. I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God.

I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy.

And by the way, I am not looking for him...He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself ’.

When she finished her spiel, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, 'You are asking a lot’. 

She replied, "I'm worth a lot".

Send this to every woman who's worth a lot.... and every man who has the brains to understand!!

Well, this is the truth for women for these ages.

Kepada lelaki yang menpunyai wanita disisi anda, yang meletakkan beban dibahunya di bahu kamu, TOLONG hargai mereka. MENGAPA? Kerana disaat mereka melakukan perkara yang mana selama ini kamu lakukan untuk mereka, ia BERMAKNA anda tidak lagi BERHARGA dimata mereka.

Kepada para wanita, jika anda mempunyai lelaki yang mempunyai nilai yang tinggi dimata anda, jika tidak dapat menyerahkan sepenuhnya beban anda, lepaskanlah perlahan-lahan kepada dia. Bincang sebaiknya denngan tunggak anda itu. Bagaimanakah hendak melepaskan beban anda.

Didalam perkahwinan, CINTA itu TIDAK PENTING. Yang PENTING adalah KASIH SAYANG, HORMAT-MENGHORMATI, KESETIAAN dan KEJUJURAN.

Mengapa saya mengatakan cinta itu tidak penting? Kerana cinta itu MUDAH HILANG, hanya kasih-sayang yang kekal. HOWEVER, LOVE TOWARDS YOUR LORD/GOD ARE MORE IMPORTANT TO MAINTAIN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

Bukan saya mahu menyokong pihak wanita sahaja, tetapi ini yang dialami oleh ibu saya dan kini diwarisi oleh anak-anaknya, dimana kami dilatih untuk hidup tanpa LELAKI disisi. Dan kami diajar untuk BANKIT dan MULA SEMULA jika kami kehilangan lelaki didalam hidup kami. Dan YA, kami mampu melakukannya kini. Dan ini bermakna untuk masa akan datang, KEBERGANTUNGAN dengan lelaki adalah sangat-sangat berkurangan.

Dari petikan yang diatas membuatkan saya terfikir semula apa yang wanita pada masakini mampu buat tanpa lelaki.

Alluhu'alam.